It's a Lenormand reader's worst fear…
Imagine you put everything you have into a Lenormand reading. You really focus on your client's situation. You study the cards thoroughly. You use all of your talent, knowledge and intuition to craft the very best reading, one that you just know will answer your client's question and leave her happy with you and your reading.
But then everything goes wrong and your client tells you that you did a horrible job. You're completely wrong and she can't relate to anything in the reading at all. You're the worst reader ever.
What a huge blow!!! Your worst reading fear come to life!
You feel like a failure. You start to question whether you're any good at Lenormand readings. You think you should give up and put away your cards for good…
No!!! Stop those thoughts right now! Never quit because one person gives you bad feedback!
Take a deep breath and follow these steps for dealing with bad feedback in Lenormand readings.
1. Find your golden nugget
In every bad reading, there's a golden nugget that you can take from it to make you a better reader.
It might be a new way of interpreting the cards that you hadn't seen before. (I didn't know the Bear card could represent a raccoon until it happened in a reading.)
It might be that you'll write up readings a little differently, fleshing them out a bit so that they aren't so blunt and to-the-point.
It might be you learn to set better boundaries. For example, maybe you have a client who wanted you to give specific, detailed health advice. But for you, health advice is not something you give for legal and/or ethical reasons. Your golden nugget might be to make sure your clients know more clearly what you will and will not cover in a reading, and that you are both in agreement about exactly what will be covered.
2. Let it go
You might be tempted to defend your Lenormand reading to prove you're right. You might want to apologize over and over again for being wrong.
Please don't do this. Instead, focus on handling the bad feedback professionally, and allowing yourself to feel great again.
It doesn't matter if your client saw 3 other readers who all said something different from you, or if she is absolutely certain there is no way she will ever see her father again, even though your cards point to a meeting in the future.
Instead, thank the client for her feedback. Let her know what you've learned (your golden nugget). Wish her well. And be on your way.
That's it. No further discussions or emails.
You'll be able to move on more quickly if you let go of her and her negative energy.
It isn't that you're trying to avoid dealing with her or her negative feedback. It's just easier to deal with bad feedback when you don't hold onto it, rehearsing events in your head, and wondering what if you had done such-and-such a little differently.
3. Go back over your positive feedback
I recommend that you keep a special folder for you positive feedback. You can use a special binder, box, or even a “positive feedback” folder in your email.
Fill it with all the great comments and feedback you receive from clients, friends, and family.
If you ever doubt yourself or have an unhappy client, immediately go to your special folder and read through it. It will remind you that you are a great reader and people do love your work.
Everyone has off days with their readings. You're only human.
But don't let it make you stop reading Lenormand.
You can't please everyone, so focus your time and energy on those you can. You'll be happier and a more successful reader for it.