Lenormand love and relationship spreads are a lot of fun to read – filled with gossip, intrigue, and a myriad of details that sometimes people wish you didn't know.
Kinky sex life? Lenormand just might spill the beans.
About to break up? Caught in a love triangle? A Lenormand love spread doesn't hold back.
Want to know how two people are relating in a relationship? Whether their love is sincere or they're just going through the motions, staying out of obligation? You guessed it! A Lenormand love reading will tell you.
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Lenormand Love and Relationship Combinations
To read Lenormand love spreads, you have to begin by understanding the love meanings of Lenormand cards. The meanings help you to pick out combinations that indicate a relationship between two people, in addition to combinations that describe the type of relationship they have.
The most basic love and relationship combination involves the Heart card. It occurs when the Heart falls between:
- the two significators (Man and Woman cards)
- two court cards (i.e., House, Clouds, Bouquet, Scythe, Child, Stork, Crossroads, Lily, and Fish)
- two cards that represent people (i.e., Rider, Snake, Bear and Dog)
- or any combination thereof (such as the Man and the Snake)
When reading a Grand Tableau (GT) or a 3×3 spread, the combination may not always appear horizontally as depicted in the image above. Two people can be connected to the Heart vertically and/or diagonally.
Guide to Reading Lenormand Love and Relationship Spreads
Look at the cards between the two people.
This applies to all spreads – from a simple 3-card spread to a Grand Tableau.
The cards between two people tell you about the type of relationship they are in and any difficulties they might be having.
The Ring indicates a committed relationship, often one involving a legal agreement, such as a marriage. It isn't a sign of love, but a sign of commitment. It is not a sign of faithfulness or monogamy.
The Heart shows passion, love, and affection between the couple.
The Anchor represents an enduring relationship. The two people are comfortable with one another and are choosing to stay together. It can be a sign of a committed relationship where the couple has chosen not to undertake the legal arrangement represented by a marriage, such as two people living together without (or prior to) getting married.
The Mountain indicates problems coming between two people. It can signify giving one another the cold shoulder, emotional distance, and other issues that can be surmounted with effort.
The Whip often indicates arguments and heated conversations. It can also show an abusive relationship and/or some of the sexual nature of the relationship, such as dominance, kink, etc., however, don't jump to these conclusions right off the bat. Make sure you check the cards surrounding the Whip. Most often, it will be a sign of problems and arguments in the relationship, not a description of their sex life or abuse.
Additional Techniques for the Grand Tableau
Important note: Since most readings will involve the Man and Woman cards, for convenience, I will explain the following techniques using the Man and Woman cards to signify the two people in the relationship. If you are doing a reading that involves different people cards, you can simply substitute the person card you're interpreting for the Man/Woman card. The reading techniques won't change based on the cards used to represent the two people.
Technique 1: Distance
1. Look at how far the two people are from each other. If they aren't near each other, it's possible they aren't in a relationship.
Similarly, if the Man and Woman cards are next to each other without any cards between them, it often indicates that they aren't in a relationship. They probably know each other, but “there is nothing between them.” If they do happen to be in a relationship, it can be a sign that they are in the process of going their separate ways.
If the cards land in different rows, such as the Man in the row above the Woman, this represents the Man likely has more control in the relationship and/or more influence over what will happen between them. You often see this when one person has a crush on someone or, if a relationship is ending, who is more likely to be ending the relationship.
2. Look at the cards near the two people. If the Man and Woman are far from each other, but are close to other people cards (e.g., Dog, Snake, etc.), you might want to consider whether there is an affair, a homosexual/lesbian relationship, or something else keeping the two people apart, such as a business trip.
Usually if there is an affair, there will be a card connecting the Man/Woman to a person card, such as Man-Heart-Snake. Don't jump to conclusions if you see that the Man/Woman is closer to another person card because it could simply mean that the person card is a friend or a momentary attraction (not something the Man/Woman will act on). Look at surrounding cards for more information.
If you're ever in doubt, ask the person you're reading for questions to help you understand what the cards are telling you. It's better to ask if there is distance because of a business trip than to incorrectly assume someone is being unfaithful or that a relationship is ending.
Technique 2: Read the Heart, Ring and Anchor
The Heart describes someone's love life. The cards touching it can tell you everything from what someone is looking for in a love relationship to whether a person is single or not.
The Ring indicates commitment. The cards touching it give insight into the quality of a relationship.
The Anchor shows stability. Surrounding cards will tell you if a relationship will last for the long-term.
Reading Homosexual and Lesbian Relationships
There is a recent tendency for people to want to add additional cards to a Lenormand deck to signify homosexual and lesbian relationships, such as adding an extra Man card to signify a male partner in a homosexual relationship. However, this is not necessary.
Homosexual and lesbian relationships existed when the Lenormand cards were created. A Lenormand deck is perfectly capable of discussing LGBT relationships without adding additional cards.
This is where court cards and additional person cards come in.
A male partner is typically represented by the Rider or Dog. Personally, I've found the Dog is how a male partner appears most often in spreads, but some readers do use the Rider. You can intend to have either the Dog or the Rider represent a male partner or love interest prior to shuffling the cards or you can simply lay the cards and see which one is coming across as a person when doing a reading.
A female partner is typically represented by the Snake. It is possible for her to be represented by the Bouquet, Crossroad, or Stork (all of which have Queens for their court cards). It's never happened in readings I've done, but it can happen. Like for a male partner, you can intend for any of these cards to represent a female partner or love interest prior to shuffling the cards or you can simply do the spread and see which card comes across as the partner during the reading.
Aside from the card used to signify a partner, all aspects of reading homosexual and lesbian relationships are identical to male-female relationships.
I hope these tips help you when reading Lenormand love and relationship spreads.